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Climaxes: The Act of Self Love by Queer African Voices

"Self exploration, as is often the case for queer identifiers, is an integral part to discovering one's own needs and desires. And while it stands true that a majority of our sexualities have likely been expressed and explored through a skewed lense, it is our relationships with our own bodies that ultimately dictate those perceptions. Furthermore, there is the ultimately dangerous trend of centering others as the starting point of attraction as opposed to oneself, and the push from sex positivity for ourselves. Herein lies the issue and hence a need for the conversational shift toward self; self exploration, self pleasure, and more importantly, self attraction."

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I mean .. Do we really need an orgasm every time?!

So let me give you my perspective and a backstory. Before I indulged in understanding our bodies, our pleasure, and overall a healthy sexual lifestyle, I believed the answer was yes! I believed if you didn’t orgasm, then the sex was wack and you might as well go back to the drawing board. However, better understanding bodies and pleasure, I continue to break the imprint society (especially porn) has tried to force upon my mind.

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Sex tapes are normal. So why the hell is it such a debate and shameful topic in today’s gossip sites?

The Shade Room, Gossip in the City, Baller Alert … all of these blog sites make it a habit to post someone’s personal sex tapes or pictures, especially when a person leaks it for monetary value or attention. It’s like, leaking a celebrity or even another person sex tape is the fuel to a person’s life. It’s that fire that continues to build them up while everyone else is tearing down consenting adults (more so consenting women) for wanting to record their own sex tapes or pictures. But why? Sex is normal. What happens when we are pleasing ourselves and those we are with is completely normal. So why is it such a big deal when someone’s personal tape or pictures are leaked? 

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Books that could be added to your book collection.

One thing about sexual wellness spectrum, it can be found in plenty of forms. One of the forms I truly love when it comes to sexual wellness, education, or even fiction, are finding books that target just that. Sometimes, we need to find books that target things we tend to struggle with and we don't feel comfortable speaking about yet. Some of those subjects involve painful sex, learning about Tantra, and even working on a specific area you or your partner(s) could be struggling with. Above are the new books that we have added to the site that we know some of the members in the community mentioned wanting to learn about or may help them in one area or another. Each of these books provide insightful information, indulging to read, and will be sure to provide information you can apply to your daily sexual life without a doubt.